Tuesday, September 2, 2008

long distance is hard

So DJ and I get along great. Put us in a room together with nothing else and we will have a great time. We just laugh and generally entertain each other. Normally we can talk about anything. No holds barred. But lately...

I feel like when we talk on the phone I am an annoyance to him. Our conversations are mundane and when I try to get a good conversation going, he does not reciprocate. I don't know what to do. I love him so much, but being apart is killing me. He says that I am more upset and bothered by this because I am so isolated currently and more emotional than normal. Both of these are true, but I still feel this way!

I really don't want to start over with a new relationship, but I am beginning to think that this one is a lost cause and he will never separate from his mother. I love him so much, he is my best friend and the best man I've ever known, but I am so alone and torn, just torn.


Amber said...

I wish I had some sage advice for you that can make you feel better. But I don't.

It just doesn't seem like a long distance relationship with a guy who will not separate from his mother is healthy for you.

At a bare minimum, it sounds like you need some friends nearby. Have you tried getting involved in some local groups? Maybe volunteering for a non-profit that you strongly support, or checking out what kinds of Meet-Up groups exist in your area?

denise said...

Loving someone shouldn't be this much stress. I still want to know if he reads this blog or not. My husband always says, "it's always about effort with women" and by women, he means me. And yes, it is all about effort. Because effort means you care enough to put words into action. DJ doesn't seem to be making much of an effort to improve the situation. Go out, chill out, have a drink, no wait, we can't do that can we!! LOL Invite your friends up, go out and meet some new people and have fun!

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