tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823668241081756556.post2239449335900400307..comments2012-07-13T01:30:52.456-05:00Comments on Gastric Bypass Catharsis: Doubts about everythingAJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10628489554881274458noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823668241081756556.post-14656854037717191062008-08-01T20:21:00.000-05:002008-08-01T20:21:00.000-05:00YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. YOU ARE EMOT...YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY GOING THROUGH MAJOR CHANGES, SO DON'T TURN YOUR HEAD ON ANY EXPERIENCE. YOU ARE YOUNG ANG DESERVE TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE AND WITH YOUR LIFE CHOICES. SORRY FOR ALL CAPS, HAD SURGERY AND CAN'T USE LEFT ARM! BE STRONG AND DON'T REGRET YOUR DECISIONS GO OUT AND REMIND YOURSELF WHY YOU MADE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10894634284772744697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823668241081756556.post-20561387435757235832008-08-01T15:06:00.000-05:002008-08-01T15:06:00.000-05:00Oh AJ... I so know what you're going through. It'...Oh AJ... I so know what you're going through. It's hard, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it.<BR/><BR/>I'd love to give you some advice, based on my own experiences. We dont' really know each other, other than from our blogs, so please take what I say with that in mind.<BR/><BR/>GO OUT AND DATE!<BR/><BR/>Whew. Now that I've got that out there, let me elaborate. I've been around the block guy-wise quite a bit. I have a 12.5 year old kid and I'm 32. You do the math. <BR/><BR/>Once upon a time I had a guy in my life that sounds quite similar to yours. Older, wishy washy on the relationship thing, committed to LOTS of things but not me. Etc. Many things changed in my life so that our continuing with the on-again off-again business wasn't doable, and we parted ways. I mourned. I mourned for what I thought was "the one", and I couldn't hang on to him. It was terrible.<BR/><BR/>Years passed and I had a handful of long term relationships, some decent, some bad. But in the back of my mind, I still missed "the one". <BR/><BR/>Flash forward to about three years ago when I met my now-husband. We had such immediate chemistry, and work so well together and as a family that I literally laugh when I think back to the person I thought was "the one". I was so deluded.<BR/><BR/>Am I telling you that you might not have found "the one"? Nope. I'm a newlywed, and completely in love with my husband, but what I'm telling you is there is no "one". It's a myth. A fairy tale.<BR/><BR/>What there is are people out there who have a lot to offer, and who might be right or wrong for you depending on where YOU are in your life. It's not romantic, but hell, life isn't a romance.<BR/><BR/>I think that if you deny yourself the opportunity to do a little dating, branch out, try some new things, you could miss out on something great. Not just a relationship, but the life experience.<BR/><BR/>You're smart, cute, energetic, and sassy. Why not share all that awesomeness with others, even just for drinks and dancing?<BR/><BR/>Sorry for preaching. It's just that I've been where you are, and I hate to see anyone else deal with what I had to.<BR/><BR/>E-mail me any time if you need to talk!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07920555938657229927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-823668241081756556.post-62880545723980622012008-08-01T14:30:00.000-05:002008-08-01T14:30:00.000-05:00No need for a regret fest! You are where you are f...No need for a regret fest! You are where you are for a reason. It's a great place for you to get healthy! Personally, 10 years waiting on a commitment-phobe sounds pretty crazy, so I'm all for a few dates if you need them! But only you know the whole story and only you can decide. Chin up, love!Meghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629937220018719769noreply@blogger.com